Can we help?
The therapeutic relationship provides a supportive container within which you can explore new ways of being and coping with painful experiences or difficult issues. This can help you have more choice and control around your responses to challenging situations.
Feeling down or depressed is something everyone may experience at some point. You may find it hard to reach out because you feel that others won’t be interested or that everyone else seems able to cope better. Often it is hard to get up and do things, and yet difficult to sleep well. With someone who can really listen to what you are saying and how you feel, it becomes easier to express the pain or despair that can otherwise make it seem like you are going round in circles and becoming more isolated from others.
When life feels more challenging, it is often in our relationships that we notice things are not going well. We can support you around relationship issues, and the difficult emotions that may come with this, such as depression or anxiety.
Grief or a sense of loss
Bereavement or relationship breakdown can be followed by depression as a natural stage in the processing of grief, along with other feelings like anger and denial; but sometimes it can be difficult to work through a profound sense of loss if you are alone. The emotional holding and commitment provided by the therapeutic relationship can support you with expressing your grief, and moving towards resolution of these stages.
Tiredness, difficulty concentrating and keeping your interest in life around you, or obsessional thoughts, can be signs of anxiety. Extreme anxiety in certain situations, like flying or simply walking down the street, is sometimes described as a panic attack. This can make every day activities a real challenge, and you may have developed strategies for how to avoid situations, or even not going out of your home, which in turn can leave you feeling isolated or restricted. Whatever the cause, or without any clear reason for your anxiety – we can work with you to reduce the impact and discomfort this produces in your life and your relationships, so that you can feel more in control again.
Heightened or constant anxiety can be an indication of trauma, which is sometimes described as Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. The impact of trauma is held in the nervous system, and may be unconscious, so that it is particularly difficult to resolve through will-power alone, and you may feel a bit out of control. Anger can be an expression of trauma that is being released or ‘mobilized’, particularly if it follows or alternates with dissociated emotions or depression. Dissociation is a sensation of not being fully present, and happens when our responses close down to protect us against overwhelming feelings.
Anger can be a difficult emotion to accept – especially if it comes up in your close relationships. You may find yourself saying: “I’m not a violent or angry person – I just don’t understand what is happening to me.” Within a safe therapeutic relationship you have the opportunity to explore how you feel, so that it becomes easier not to ‘act it out’ with those you are close to.