Are you wondering ‘How do I deal with confidence and self-esteem? How can I overcome negative feelings I have about myself?’

Symptoms of low self-esteem may include:

  • feeling worthless
  • feeling incompetent and unrealistic about our abilities
  • feeling unloved
  • being overwhelmed with fear and negative thoughts
  • being unrealistic about goals
  • being drawn into destructive relationships
  • fear of change
  • distorted views of self and others


If you feel you have low confidence or self-esteem or need to boost your self-confidence, counselling can help you overcome your negative feelings about yourself. Many people’s lack of self-confidence originates from when they were young, whereas others lose confidence following a traumatic event or life event such as losing a job or end of a relationship. This can lead to a lack of trust in others or ourselves.

Here’s an interesting article in Psychology Today magazine about overcoming low self-esteem.


For specific focused areas, for example work and professional issues including career change, dealing with threat of redundancy, work-life balance, preparing for interviews or setting up and running a business, an action-oriented coaching approach may be more appropriate.

The Coaching Academy, who train coaches, offers some useful tips on ways to boost your self-esteem and confidence.

Remember your low self-esteem and lack of confidence may be a belief rather than fact and many people find that they can overcome both of these with the right support.

Our therapists have a range of skills and specialities – please read each of our profiles to find out more.